There's a method to quitting.
As a coach, it's fascinating to observe.
We've all done it. It's almost like going through the stages of grief.
The Feeling
This isn’t what I thought it would be.
The Story
The tales you begin to tell yourself of why you won't be able to reach what you set out to achieve.
The Justification
You rationalise why it's OK to quit. You’ve used these before and they work.
Some of the ones I hear most often are… I don’t have the time. It wasn't that important anyway. It will never work.
The Logic
You then use ‘facts’. Using your self-filtered evidence to prove the feeling, story and justification. This logic can be as crazy as the moon is made of cheese, but if it fits, you’ll use it.
The Denial
It wasn’t that important anyway. Who cares if I don’t get the promotion, write the book, start my business, complete the project, save my relationship, improve my health…
The solution? Get back in the saddle.
I love that expression.
If you
fall off a horse, what do you do?
Stand around while the herd disappears? Or get back on?
It may hurt, you may be at the back of the group but you’re still part of it.
In the new edition of 17, I share 17 ways to get back in the saddle. They include; the power of breath, reframing, something new called Hyper-Short-Term Visualisation and using quitting as the motivator (how’s that for a flip?).
I included this chapter because I know you’re a human.
Sometimes your subconscious takes over and tries to protect you from perceived pain. It thinks sod this, be safe, let’s quit.
Sometimes it’s right.
Most times it’s not.
What are your ideas to get back in the saddle? I’ll send a signed copy of 17 blue to our
favourite. Please leave your comments here.
And speaking of 17 blue. You can order a special,
numbered, signed, limited second edition – in blue, here.
Be Brilliant!
